Hello!

Hello. I am a 29 year old Singaporean. Chinese, non-descript, geeky. You know, typical Raffles boy who's into computer and video games and all things geek. A bit banana, but otherwise prototypically Singaporean.

Hello, my name is Alex. I am Singaporean and i am gay. My husband and I have been dating for 8 years, married for 2.5 years. We got registered in Vancouver, Canada, but are still dating long-distance. We want to raise kids, but not here, where the government is still unwilling, and will probably be unwilling to be supportive for quite a while longer.

Why did i finally decide to say it on this blog? Well, i've been thinking about it for a while. Coming back here was almost like coming out all over again. I had to consider that people might not be as supportive, and that i was working in some sensitive government positions. As i came out to selected swing friends, then to some colleagues, i became more comfortable with myself. Now, i'm at the point where i probably won't deny it if someone asks me. But i still don't see myself becoming some kind of gay activist.

So what was the final push? I guess it was seeing the government's decision to rework the Penal Code, to remove the prohibition against oral/anal sex between heterosexual couples but keep it for homosexual couples, hence explicitly criminalising gay sex. All because "society won't tolerate it". It raises interesting questions, such as the role of government in society, whether it is a mere mirror or an advocate of social values. But that's a debate for another day. All i can say is that it leaves me feeling marginalised. I am a gay Singaporean. My sexuality is not all of me, but it is part of me. You can't have one without the other. I want to stay here, but i probably won't over the longer term. And i can't, don't want to stay that silent anymore. Hence, this post.

Ok that's enough venting from me. here's a link to cheer us all up. I think it's awesome that Dr. Khoo set something up like this. Society needs more groups like SAFE Singapore. Civic society is currently over-dominated by groups like Focus on the Family and other pro-family but anti-gay groups.

Ajantis is now going to continue working on his computer....